One of the great mysteries of marriage is that the "two become one". What does that really mean?
This two-for-one sort of talk sounds remarkably like the press for Denver Seminary's new president when he was hired.
Must be an egal thing, right?
Yes, yes, I know that I sometimes am far too idealistic, too romantic, too head-up-in-the-clouds. Over the years, I've been told that it's "obvious" that all that is meant by the "one flesh" union of marriage is (pick one):
- Married people have sex. Having sex makes you one flesh. Sheesh, Rebecca, you are so dense. Either that, or you're a prude. All God meant is that married people have sex. Why do you have to try to make a big deal out of everything? There is no mystery here. It's just simple biology.
- The husband is the head and the wife is the body. Good grief, Rebecca, can't you read? This is so plain. What God is saying here is that women need to obey their husbands.
- Married people have babies. Do I really have to explain this to you, Rebecca? The DNA from the husband and the wife combines and "creates" a new person --- the two literally become one flesh! Maybe if you hadn't been writing poems in Algebra class, you wouldn't be such a doofus at science and you would be able to understand the obvious!
- It means something mysterious and profound. It speaks of a deep spiritual truth, and is a picture of our unity with Christ. It's hard for us selfish individuals to understand this, Rebecca. Sin gets in the way of our comprehending how complete, how mysterious, this truth is --- and we all fail at living out the unity we are supposed to have in marriage.
So...if we are supposed to be living out this wonderful unity in our marriages, acting as one flesh, and if the wife is supposed to be the "suitable helper" for her husband, why do people get all bent out of shape when someone acknowledges publicly that his wife is his helper in more than just domestic chores, and that she ministers with him, in unity, at his side? Isn't it more Biblical to get "two for one"?
So, gentle readers, what do you think?
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