But if your husband has sexually molested the children, you should approach him with it. If he is truly repentant (not just exposed) and is willing to seek counseling, you may feel comfortable giving him an opportunity to prove himself, as long as you know the children are safe. If there is any thought that they are not safe, or if he is not repentant and willing to seek help, then go to the law and have him arrested. Stick by him, but testify against him in court. Have him do about 10 to 20 years, and by the time he gets out, you will have raised the kids, and you can be waiting for him with open arms of forgiveness and restitution. Will this glorify God? Forever. You ask, "What if he doesn't repent even then?" Then you will be rewarded in heaven equal to the martyrs, and God will have something to rub in the Devil's face. God hates divorce -- always, forever, regardless, without exception.This man is seriously out of touch with reality. How on earth can the children possibly be safe if they have any contact with their abuser at all? Who would even want to "stick by" a man who had not only committed adultery but incest and pedophilia? "Have him do about 10 to 20 years"? Since when will the courts allow the wife to determine the length of the sentence? Open arms of forgiveness and restitution? Just because a woman forgives someone does not mean she is required to invite him back into her bed --- and she is not the one who owes restitution. Not at all. Unfortunately, there is no restition that a man can possibly make to his children for raping and violating them.
I have known women who followed this sort of advice. They cannot understand why their daughters, the rape victims of the man that their own mothers are so eager to invite back into their homes, refuse to visit even on holidays. Once grandchildren come along, the all-too-forgiving wives cannot understand why their daughters say, "There is no way that I'm going to let that man anywhere near my daughters. He will not rape them the way he raped me." Is that unforgiving? No --- it is being a good mother. It is doing what mothers should do in keeping their children from harm and bad company.
Were my children to be assaulted, abused, or raped, I would not betray them by inviting the tormentor into my home, no matter how duped I had previously been by this criminal pervert. If I was sick enough to still have my own misguided feelings of fondness for this vile jerk ("But he was always nice to me and, besides, he's awfully cute for a pedophile!") I would certainly set them aside out of love and motherly duty for my children, no matter their ages, no matter how many years transpired since the rapes, no matter how many crocodile tears the pedophile wept.
Pedophiles tend to offend repeatedly...again and again and again. I recently heard of one case where the pedophile had not only raped his daughters but, after alledgedly being "rehabilitated" in jail, had gone on to rape his grandchildren as well as assorted nieces, nephews, and neighbor children --- all because his wife had insisted on welcoming him back to the family and giving him access to more victims.
Will God reward you for allowing your husband to go on molesting the very children you are supposed to protect? Not at all. It is one thing to be a martyr; it is another thing to be an accomplice to pedophilia. Yes, God hates divorce. But He certainly allows it in the case of adultery --- and it's time some Christians stopped pretending that child molestation is somehow a lesser sin.
Shame on Michael Pearl.