Lest I be accused of "male bashing", here is a post that might either put me back in the good graces of some of the men or put me on the outs with some of the women.
I have noticed a double standard among some Christian men and women, and it doesn't amuse me. Years ago, a number of the most conservative women I knew would go on and on about Mel Gibson, about how they watched all his movies, about how wonderful it was that he was not only such a fine and handsome actor but a devoted husband and father of many, how wonderful he looked in a kilt, even about how they had "crushes" on him. These gushings, of course, led me to wonder how these women would have reacted if their husbands had similar "crushes" on actresses. ("I just loved her in that movie where I got to look at her gorgeous legs the whole time!")
But men, you see, are visual. Women aren't. This silly dogma gives some women the misguided notion that they don't "lust" or that their lust is harmless and amusing. With them, it's a crush. ("Isn't he cute?" "Check out that eye candy!" "What a gorgeous hunk of man!") With their husbands, it's lust. ("Can you believe he rents movies he doesn't even like, just so he can ogle Julia Roberts?")
That is bad enough. But it gets worse. I have had grown women, married women, tell me that they have crushes on one of my under-age, teenage sons. They thought this was funny and amusing. I didn't. In fact, I simply did not know what to say.
Perhaps men come up to my husband and joke with him about having crushes on my under-age daughter. I certainly hope not, because I might be driven to deal with these men. Just like, the next time some woman confesses a crush on one of my sons, I will not remain silent.